Mine Own Familiar Friend: The Voice Of Your Friends
Think back into the either recent or not so recent past. You’re in school. BANG! The door swings open to the school hall as you sit there with your classmates in anticipation as you have heard that today is the day you get to hear a real live cop talk to you. He struts up to the middle of the stage and stands proudly. His weapons, utility belt and his stab proof vest almost glimmering in the beam of light shining through the upper window. With star struck eyes we all think “What will he say!? What is the topic? It must be about how to take out an assailant with a single swipe of a hand, or even, how to become a police officer, oh oh! No! It’s gotta be about how to judo flip a bad guy!” He clears his throat and announces the topic of his discussion. “Say no to peer pressure.”
The Peer Pressure Is Real
Since we were little we have been told not to follow our friends in an array of different ways. “If he went and jumped off the bridge would you do it too?” Or like the police officer that spoke to us in school, “Just because your friends are doing it doesn’t mean you have to”. When we think back now on our teenage years and remember all the dumb stuff we did. Who was there? Who would egg us on and chant our name as we stood on the edge of an idiotic decision, zombified by the chanting of our own name. “Caleb! Caleb! Caleb! Mate, you’re the crazy one, you’ll do anything! Go on Caleb! Easy! Easy! Easy!” that was the soundtrack to a lot of the ridiculously stupid things I did. I craved the recognition of my friends. All I wanted to be was popular, I wanted the adoration of my peers. The peer pressure was real, however, we mostly apply the pressure ourselves.
They Can Make Us Or Break Us
Even today, all too often, we give our friends a stronger voice than our own parents, our own spouse and even our own God.
Jim Rohn said “We are the average of the 5 people we spend the most time with,” that’s because we can’t help but allow the voices of our friends to influence us. It’s so easy to allow those voices to lead and guide you. So when it comes to the void that develops in our mind on the subject of destiny or choosing a path, we are going to have our friends filling that void with their opinions on what you should do, where you should go and who you should be.
Now, I am not saying stop seeing them, or drop them in the name of “Christianity” that’s not Christianity, that’s just being a crummy friend, maybe you’re supposed to be the one influencing them, so don’t drop them. What I’m saying is, quit being an Ask hole. “Caleb!? What’s an ask hole?” An ask hole is someone who goes around asking everyone and anyone for their advice on something. Some of us are running around asking every Tom, Dick and Harry what we should do next. If you’re a Christian reading this then you have an asset at your disposal, who you can ask freely and as much as you want about anything…The Holy Spirit.
What Should I Do?
How do we make it where we stop allowing these “Friendly” voices to replace the right voice? It’s simple to say but hard to do. The solution is:
1) We must cut certain negative influencers out of our lives.
2) Surround ourselves with those who build us and inspire us. (Undoubtedly you’ll hear their voices, at the very least make it a good voice)
3) Ask God, who kinda basically knows freaking EVERYTHING anyways.
John 3 v 5 – 6 5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart,
and lean not on your own understanding; 6 In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He shall direct your paths.